8.02.2008

love is...

Over the last 48 hours, I've been reminded about what unconditional love really is. I experienced this love from the amazing family I have (Tuckers and Palmers) and the incredible friends I've been blessed to know. My mom was {kind of surprisingly} released from the hospital on Thursday evening, creating some moments that I would never wish upon anyone. Here are some moments of grace that I'll carry with me during the coming weeks as we manage my mom and her healing.

- Crying to my husband that I'm way overwhelmed with my mom's situation and I can't do it alone. He offered to drive from Santa Monica to San Diego to help me. Instead, we decided his mom would be a better support {I felt like I needed a mom} and she was also about 2 hours closer to where I was located.

- Rob's sister helping to locate their mom, despite her preparations for her performance {she's in a local production of Music Man}.

- Rob's amazing mom dropping her life Thursday evening to rescue me from what I thought was equivalent to hell. She has been an instrumental role while managing this situation, and without her, I would feel mother-less.

- My brother answering his phone Thursday night whenever I called to give him updates and moral support, even at 4am when I could barely speak because I was so upset. He's so awesome and loving, I'm thankful that we're in this together. When he arrived Friday afternoon to take over, some really heavy weight was lifted off my shoulders.

- My husband answering his phone whenever I called, despite being super busy at work.

- The doctors at Scripps Green in La Jolla who counseled me through my hysteria when I told them how my night was with my mom. They listened to me and hugged me and offered support.

- One of my best friends, Melanie, telling me that she and Kristi would change their Friday night plans to be with me in San Diego if my brother wasn't able to take on mom duty. We had a slumber party planned for Friday night to celebrate Kristi's birthday. They carried on with the celebration, while I needed to be home to decompress with my husband. Melanie even offered a drop-off "cocktails and cake" service if we needed it.

- Me making a tuna sandwich for my mom...this reminded me of the unconditional love that I have for my mom {I hate hate tuna sandwiches; next to throw-up, tuna is my least favorite thing in the world}.

- Coincidentally receiving a 25% off Gap/Banana Republic/Old Navy coupon on Thursday night from a friend who is not even aware of what's been going on. Perfect time for some retail therapy!

These are only some moments and some of the people who helped me through Thursday night. I am just so thankful for my support system. Thank you for your kind comments, emails, texts, and prayers from my last blog update. My brother and I {and by marriage, Rob and Mimi} are in the midst of a serious transition that will hopefully result with a healthy mom that we can experience life with. I'm still accepting positive vibes and prayers...

14 comments:

California Girl said...

I am so sorry to hear things are in a tough spot with your mom right now. I really hope everything gets better and that you are doing OK. Hugs from Encino; you are in my thoughts.

That Girl said...

I'm continuing to send good vibes - let me know if you need anything as I am literally down the street from Scripps - and from my experience with them, the doctors are fantastic.

Leslie said...

You've got my good vibes for sure! Hugs to you and your family.

pam said...

sending our love your way. please let us know if you need anything.

xoxo,
p, j & c

Nanette said...

I'm sorry to be chiming in late (I'm sooo behind on my blog reading), but I'm happy to hear you have the awesome support system that you do. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Winnie said...

[hugs]

Trisha said...

I'm sending loads of positive vibes and energy your way. I wish I would have known you were in SD last week and I would have at least tried to meet up to cheer your up :) Keep your chin up!

WeezerMonkey said...

All the best to you and your family during this difficult time. Much love!

amber said...

lots of love and hugs to you. hang in there.

R said...

Still sending them along your way. You will make it through. I have faith in you.

dapotato said...

so very late but wanted to add my well wishes.

Kay said...

alyssa,

i am sorry to hear about your situation. i hope you are feeling better and i especially hope your mom is doing better. sending my love and prayers. you have a great husband!!

~ Jolene said...

I'm also sorry for the late comment as I'm also behind on blog reading. I am so sorry for everything you've been going through. Odd thing is, you'd never know it since you've been a HUGE help to me the past few weeks with the shower...and through it all, you were nothing but smiles. You are very strong Alyssa. I am here for you - please don't hesitate to call should you need a shoulder to lean on. Love you!

Sarah said...

I too am behind on the blog reading. This sounds like a truly trying situation but I am so glad to hear that you do have the love and support of family. My thoughts are with you.